My guest today is Tara Beth who runs a wedding photography business, Tara Beth Photography. Tara specialises in LGBTQIA and destination weddings and her passion for love and celebrating it in every form really shines through in every picture. Tara also hosts a visibility project that she is calling ‘The Q Project’, aimed at busting stereotypes of the queer community.
There’s several things I love about Tara’s work and this episodes interview. We think of weddings as joyful and a celebration and they should be. However I think many of us know that a wedding can be such a stressful day for anyone and we reflect on this.
This goes deeper though into something even more poignant. Tara’s work is about making other types of weddings visible. We still think of weddings in terms of a bride and groom. You can hear the moment I realise that was my experience too. I have always rejected the idea of weddings and suddenly, in the interview, I realised why. I didn’t want a bride and groom in the sunset and a big fluffy white dress. I get that now.
Also, I hesitated about the responsibility of sharing a podcast episode where Tara encourages people to Come Out. As a small example of why this gave me pause, let’s consider that in many places, Coming Out could lead to violence or death. Or the fact that it is only explicitly illegal to fire someone or not rent them an apartment because of their sexual or gender identity in in less than half the states of the US. This is about keeping our friends and loved ones physically safe but also mentally well.
What we both wanted to express and I want to repeat is that you deserve to be your most authentic self. You deserve love, respect and safety. You can be out. I know I can speak for myself, Tara and any LGBTQ+ person when I say we will feel and understand your dilemma and experiences. We are here too. Know that. Your life just might not work in that way right now and that it ok. You don’t have to and what a position to find ourselves in.
Tara is calling for those who feel positive about their sexuality and gender identity because she wants to show how beautiful it is and undeserving of the stigma. I am here for this.
All photos above copyright of Tara Beth Photography